When or will I ever know my phone and Apple ID is compromised and hacked into

Check your device list to see if there is a device signed in that you don't recognize. You can remove the device using the steps in the article below. As a precaution, change your password.

Apple ID device list -Check to see where you‘re signed in.    

 Apple ID Password Change.      

 What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support     I suggest doing this before you change your Apple ID or password.

You can also add 2 Factor Authentication to your account for more security. If the attempts continue, you might want to consider a name change.

Note the restrictions in the article.

Apple ID Name Change.        

 What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support    I suggest doing this before you change your Apple ID or password.

Apple ID -Two-factor authentication          

Two Factor Authentification availability.     

Apple ID - Using app-specific passwords.     

Apple ID - Two Step Verifications FAQ    

NOTE: It's not a good idea to let the world knows your iCloud ID.

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