where can I find itunes

iTunes is now part of the "Finder" on the newer versions of MacOS.

Update to the latest version of iTunes - Apple Support

Use the Finder to sync your iPhone, iPad, or iPod with your computer - Apple Support

cevans124 wrote:

I can't find iTunes on my Mac

That is correct.

You’ve told us how you’re trying to do something. Instead tell us what you’re trying to do. There is a way. It does not involve iTunes.