How can I tell if anyone else is using my Apple ID !!

Check your device list to see if there is a device signed in that you don't recognize. You can remove the device using the steps in the article below. As a precaution, change your password.

Apple ID device list -Check to see where you‘re signed in.   * 

See who has access to your device or accounts

 Apple ID Password Change.   -  

ASC YouTube for How to reset your Apple ID password

 What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support  -   I suggest doing this before you change your Apple ID or password.

What makes you think someone is using your credentials?

If you think your Apple ID has been compromised - Apple Support