iOS 17 airdrop problem

I have an iPhone 13 Pro Max on 17.0.1 and when I attempt to airdrop 250 photos to my M1 iPad Pro also on 17.0.1 it just hangs saying “waiting”. I can airdrop 40 or 50 no problem. Previously on 17.0.0 it would show a screen where it asked again what I wanted to do, including airdrop. Very frustrating.