for forgot my password to my ipad and dont have itune is A1395 was my wifes old ipad

If your iPad is disabled, or you have forgotten your iPad passcode, you’ll need to follow this process:

https://support.apple.com/en-gb/HT211078

You’ll need access to either a PC (with iTunes installed) or a Mac (with iTunes or Finder - as appropriate for the installed version of MacOS).

You’ll also need your AppleID and associated password. If these have also been forgotten, they can be recovered here:

https://iforgot.apple.com

To recover your credentials, you’ll need access to one of the following:

• Your primary email address mailbox that corresponds with your AppleID
• Any of the secondary/recovery email addresses that should be configured for your AppleID account
• Any of the trusted telephone numbers (fixed line or Cellular/Mobile) that are associated with your AppleID

Unless you AppleID account has not been fully/correctly configured, or has been seriously neglected, recovery of the AppleID and password should not be difficult.

More information about recovery of your AppleID:

https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201354

More information about recovery of your AppleID password:

https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201487

When you recover access to your credentials, you would be well advised to log-in to your AppleID account from a web browser - and verify/update any email addresses and trusted telephone numbers:

https://appleid.apple.com

If you never backed up this over 9-year old iPad or any of its apps, in the past, using an older version of iTunes on a Mac or PC, I wouldn't even bother doing ANYTHING with this iPad, any longer!

Here’s why.

Tap and read my links below for my additional info about your over 9-year old iPad model.

"Sudden App Death” for Completely Res… - Apple Community

If you own OLD 8 and 9 Year Old iPad mo… - Apple Community

These old 8 and 9-year old iPad models very soon will be rendered completely OBSOLETE and unsupported by the end of 2020!

Sorry & Best of Luck to You!