Where did iphoto go

iPhoto was discontinued in 2015 and replaced by "Photos."

Hold down the option key while opening the Photos app and it will give you the option to select your iPhone library. It will then open and convert it for Photos.

iPhoto was discontinued 6 years ago. It is no longer developed or sold. It was replaced by the more powerful (and free) Photos.app that comes with the OS. You can migrate to that app very simply:

Hold down the option (or alt) key and launch Photos. From the resulting menu select 'Choose Library' and point at your iPhoto Library. It will do the rest.

If you prefer not to use Photos there are several 3rd party apps that you can use. Which to choose depends on the kind of photographer you are and your budget.