Can't limit screen time for my 14 year old kids

Hello pwollyapple,

With their age being 14, you should be able to set up Screen Time without any issues. You can also try setting it up directly from their iPhones using the following guidance from Set up Screen Time for a family member on iPhone - Apple Support.

"Set downtime and app limits on a family member’s device

1. On your family member’s device, go to Settings > Screen Time.
2. Tap Turn On Screen Time, tap Continue, then tap This is My Child’s iPhone.
3. To schedule downtime for your family member (time away from the screen), enter the start and end times, then tap Set Downtime.
4. To set limits for categories of apps you want to manage for your family member (for example, Games or Social Networking), select the categories.

To see all the categories, tap Show All Categories.

5. Tap Set, enter an amount of time, then tap Set App Limit.

6. Tap Continue, then enter a Screen Time passcode for managing your family member’s Screen Time settings."

If you aren't able to do that or need more help, it may be best to reach out to Apple Support to have them take a closer look.

Take care.

Hey there pwollyapple,

It sounds like you have a few questions that need answering, and we'd like to try our best to answer them:

1. You mentioned that there may be an issue due to their age, but we recommend making sure that their birthdates show correctly for each of their own Apple ID accounts. This link shows how to Update the birth date associated with your Apple ID just in case you needed it.
2. For your other question, this link shows how to use parental controls using Screen Time: Use Screen Time on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

Cheers!