... it said your comment cannot be saved right now, and when I refreshed the page it just proofed and disappeared…
That sounds exactly like a forum bug, not something you did or did not do. If a post is removed for cause, you get an email from the mods stating a reason. It will go to the email address you use to sign in here.
Mornings seem to be a bad time for the forum software. I often get log-outs or strange behaviors early in the day and then everything is fine.
For threads you authored, followed or participated in, you can see the last ~three months in your Subscriptions:
Reaction66’s Subscriptions - Apple Community
Note the "Filter" function at the top the list. It helps.
For older posts you must rely on a site-delimited web search from your favorite search engine. Your search string would be:
site:discussions.apple.com "Reaction66"
👉🏻 NOTE: there is NO space between the colon (:) after "site" and the "d" in "discussions."
Anyway, I think it likely that you were "bug-bit," not targeted for something you did.