Automatic ear detection being OFF on iPad but not on MacBook or Android phone.

I can turn off my airpods pro 2's automatic ear detection using my iPad in Bluetooth settings, but when I connect my airpods to my mac or my android phone (both of which cannot turn off auto ear detection themselves), the automatic ear detection is still on.

My previous pair of airpod pro 2s worked perfectly because it had auto ear detection stay off when paired to my other devices that couldn't turn off the setting themselves, so I don't know why this pair is broken. And when I try to reset the airpods, it flashes white for a bit then flashed amber 3 times then stops instead of flashing amber and then white (which is apparently what is supposed to happen). Is this fixable?