Syncing ‘Greyed out’ songs that I haven’t selected to sync

Hi... Please Help, this is driving me mad!!!!

So I’ve been round this many times and tried lots of different things.....

when I sync music to my iPhone using my windows laptop, I am getting a lot of extra songs added to my library.

they are copies of songs I have but they are greyed out. They are not songs I have selected to be synced. Some are songs I bought on iTunes, some are ones I previously bought and uploaded in other ways.

I don’t have WiFi sync or cloud library or anything like that turned on.

I deleted everything from phone and started syncing one album at a time to resolve, get so far in with it working, then suddenly a load of extra ‘greyed out’ songs appear....

so annoying.

any ideas?

photo below a random example of an album it has synced without me selecting it, if I sync the album I will have the songs available to play but still have these ghost copies also so each song will be listed twice unless I delete the ghost version....

thanks in advance