Big Sur destroyed my MacBook
I have two questions and wasn't sure whether to pose them separately so will do them all as they're interrelated and someone can tell me where to post the others if they're better somewhere else on the community.
Firstly, I stupidly upgraded to Big Sur within days of it's big release - I usually have auto update turned off and wait a month or more before installing new OS software as I find it better to wait for all the inevitable issues to be ironed out. I've always been pro Mac having used it since I started computing in 1996 despite them being well out of my budget. This has been a disappointing 18 months or so. Installing Big Sur progressively not only killed my MacBook but also TWO external drives used for backup. Initially I had problems with it logging me out randomly or suddenly sleeping despite me being in the middle of working on it. Suddenly I only had a 50% viable battery despite it living almost constantly on the charger - I would estimate it would've had less than 50 discharge/recharge cycles in it's measly lifetime as I don't travel or take it out with me (I'm 48) so it would only have been if it had been on sleep and there was a power cut. The issue with the external drives was they would be randomly ejected whilst backing - I'd get the warning notification that to ensure I safely eject the disc. Initially I blamed myself and my husband but then it did it right in front of me while I wasn't even using it. I thought it was a USB issue so tried different ports, different cables, even a third drive. Each one ended up corrupted. None of them can be repaired in Disk Utility. The fan ran almost constantly even if no applications were running or even open. And yes I tried all the usual advice with resetting NVRAM, SCM etc. I should have done a rollback long ago in hindsight and am kicking myself. The final straw was a few weeks ago it randomly froze so I rebooted and on restart get the flashing question mark folder. Rebooted using command-R into DU and looked like a it might be a software issue as I could see the data folder as well as the drive. The disk had issues on verify so tried to repair it which was also unsuccessful. Resigned myself to having to use my only TM not yet corrupted which hadn't been used for around 3 months and I'd done a lot of work on my Dad's 80th birthday photo montage, but was prepared to start again. However, when I chose to reinstall the destination drive part is blank - yet shows in Disk Utility. So I have a bricked MacBook, I've bought a MacBook Air M1 but am so hesistant about what OS to use. Do I go back to Catalina which had it's issues but is still being updated unlike HS. Do I go with Big Sur and hope I'm one of the lucky ones as looking online it's still a massive piece of rubbish. Or do I hold off and wait for Monterey even though I'm steadily losing all faith in Apple (in saying that I still went and bought another one eh).
Secondly, what is the current recommendations on really good recovery software. Some of my photos are showing as damaged so one that includes that as a feature would be better bang for my buck. I can't possibly afford taking 2 external drives plus to MacBook to a pro and we're currently locked down so it's out even if I was rich. There's SO MANY APPLICATIONS to search through but Recuva maybe looks relatively good in terms of what I'm looking for. I have good all-round IT knowledge (i.e taking Mac's apart, comfortable using terminal etc, and writing Windows *cough* scripts and their manual database backups and restores etc so I feel savvy enough given the right product.
If anyone has any input or previous experience in any software I'd value anything you had to say. TIA
MacBook Pro 13″, 11.0