Syncing iMessage on iPhone and ipad

lesfromyork wrote:

all that has been done. It doesn’t sync to delete messages yet does to receive them

If all settings are expected, turn-off Messages in iCloud on both your iPad and iPhone - then perform a forced-restart of both devices:

Force restart iPad - Apple Support

Force restart iPhone - Apple Support

After both have been restarted, you can re-enable Messages in iCloud on both the iPhone and iPad.

lesfromyork wrote:

I have an iPhone and iPad - iOS 16 and have done everything mentioned. This just started within the last month

Try this. Turn off iMessage on all of your devices. Turn it back on on your iPhone. Once it's activated on your iPhone, re-enable it on your other devices. Check to make sure that iCloud Syncing is enabled. I'd also enable Text message forwarding.

Set up iCloud for Messages on all your devices - Apple Support

Forward SMS/MMS text messages from your iPhone to your Mac or iPad - Apple Support

Assuming that both iPad and iPhone are signed-in to iCloud with the same AppleID - to send SMS/MMS messages (green bubbles) from your iPad you must explicitly enable Text Message Forwarding for your iPad on your iPhone...

On your iPhone:

Settings > Messages > Text Message Forwarding - set to ON - and explicitly enable your iPad from the list of devices.

Also, to ensure that Messages remain synchronised between devices, ensure that Messages in iCloud is enabled on both your iPhone and iPad:

Settings > [Your Name / AppleID] > Messages - set to ON

Hmmm. Ok. Maybe try this: Set up iCloud for Messages on all your devices - Apple Support

Yeah this happens to me all the time. Idk why they don’t sync but you have to delete it on each device. Sry.

No i mean that they never will sync deletes. That isn’t possible. If you want the message deleted on both devices you would have to delete the message separately on each device.

Glad I was able to point you in the right direction!

lesfromyork wrote:

iCloud syncing was not on - thanks - appreciated

Curious - as this was explored in the first reply and your subsequent responses…