Sorry, it’s not clear to me if you’re the parent or young adult. The parent should contact Apple Support and confirm the teens age charge on their Apple Account/Apple ID.
Is/was the teen a member of an Apple Family Sharing group? If so, alert the support person to this as well.
Does the teen have the necessary identification requirements to confirm the identity to an Apple Cash specialist at Green Dot Bank? The identification requirements are federal banking regulations and are required by any electronic wallet, bank etc.
To abswer your question as to number of 18 year olds having issue, very few that have followed Apple’s recommendations and federal regulations.
Not sure who said you can’t be included, but yes if the bank can establish identity fir both parties, a representative/parent can be included in the conversation per federal guidelines.
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