I got hacked - malware

That email is a common scam.

Here’s a write-up on one variation of the scam:

https://krebsonsecurity.com/2018/07/sextortion-scam-uses-recipients-hacked-passwords/

I'll get the occasional mail message with an old password of mine akin to the message you received, which the miscreants have acquired from server breaches. They’ll make a few absurd claims, too. They can’t do what they claim, though you will want to avoid re-using passwords because these scams aren’t the only thing the miscreants will try with an old password.

Looooong thread about users getting lied to by pop-ups, which is another very common scam...

I got a popup that says “Your system is infected with (3) Viruses … - Apple Community

What you were reading in that mail or may (will?) have seen in the similar pop-ups was and is categorically, totally, completely, and utterly rubbish.

Recognize and avoid phishing messages, phony support calls, and other scams - Apple Support

Websites and scammers in general cannot scan your device, your Mac, your Windows system. Not without you having granted that access. Usually by loading whatever app they want you to load, or by giving them your credentials.

Scammers can cause you fear—or titillation, or disgust, or curiosity, or the self-doubt arising from gaslighting—to get you to act against your own interests.

Your phone is not hacked. The email is a common scam attempt. Delete the email, and do not interact with the message or the sender. Also change the password for whichever site they claimed to have your password.

evans_4 wrote:

Ok so thats great that they cant record me but how were they able to see my screen and how do i make sure they cant see it any more?

Who said they saw your screen? They did? Okay.

Did you consider that they lied about reading your screen, and lied about accessing your camera, too?

Some people will lie to you. Some will gaslight you.

If what they claimed were possible, it’d be wall-to-wall coverage across the Internet, as ~everybody would be reading everybody else’s screens, and ~everybody recording everybody else. There’d be congressional hearings and lawsuits in most countries, were what they claimed possible.

It’s. A. Scam.

They. Lie.

They possibly have your password from a previously hacked website, such as Yahoo, LinkedIn, or one of a hundred others that have been hacked over the years. The scammers purchase password info from the hackers, then attempt to extort money from other victims. Don’t be that victim. They know absolutely nothing about you, or your devices.

⭐️⭐️⭐️ I’m sticking my nose in here. Having been exposed to these scams on more than one occasion and having little to no previous experience. It can elicit the exact response they are looking for. Your response to this question was clear and detailed. Referencing personal experience, including links and documentation takes a very common experience and post and rendered it understandable and manageable. I’m truly not trying to critique your response but note that as a fellow user I have had this question and see it all the time. This reply, although posted to another’s question, answers many. I’m sure that’s part of the forum’s goal. I’ve responded because obviously it assisted me. Hence the thank you stars.

Your device can't be hacked.

No software can be installed unless you download it from the App Store.

You can't be recorded.

No one can see you other than FaceTime.

No one can see your screen unless they are in the room with you.