Hi JPaulson2020,
We appreciate you reaching out to us about Family Sharing purchases. Rest assured that we'll do our best to assist you or get you pointed in the right direction.
We understand that you are getting a purchase verification request even if you are using an adult account. Ask To Buy isn't available for adults. Are you sharing an Apple ID with a child? If not, check the birth date on your Apple ID account and ask your husband to review the details of your Family Sharing account and change your status to Parent/Guardian. Restart both of your devices after making these changes.
Use your own Apple ID for Family Sharing
Manage and use your Apple ID
Approve what kids buy with Ask to Buy
"With Ask to Buy, when kids want to buy or download a new item, they send a request to the family organizer.
The family organizer can turn on Ask to Buy for any family member who isn't an adult. It's on by default for any children under 13. You'll be asked to set up Ask to Buy when you invite anyone under 18 to your family group.
The family organizer can give another parent or guardian in the group over the age of 18 permission to manage Ask to Buy requests.
On your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch
- Go to Settings.
- Tap your name.
- Tap Family Sharing, then tap your family member's name.
- Tap Role.
- Tap Parent/Guardian."
If the issue persists, please reply back to this thread and we'll do our best to help you!
Take care!